The Bone Yard

Shes still there and listening, thats huge man, good luck!

In all honesty, we went to two counsellors. Neither made us feel welcome, and we both felt judged when we left. I don't think at this point marriage counselling is even an option.

My wife and I have been talking again. Unfortunately, the news isn't going the way I'd like. She is still firm on filing on Friday. My wife is a straight shooter. She is open, and honest.

I appreciate all the love and support guys. I want this to work more than anything. The sad thing is that while I uncover more of myself, I feel worse and worse about how I've treated her.

I am up and down about how I feel this will turn out. Yesterday, I thought she might give me more time. Today, I think she will be first in line.

You know were all here for you man

Just a suggestion. Ask your wife on a date this weekend. Dress up and take her to a nice place to eat, movie and then home. Maybe flowers, etc. Treat the entire night the same way you did the first time you did ask her out. After the date is over don't try to kiss her just say good night. Win her heart back.

My wife and I were pretty close to where you are at and the only problem with our marriage was ME. It's been a long two years but I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. It's been a long process for us and it may work for you.

Just a suggestion my friend and good luck.

Sorry to hear bud, hopefully things can still turn around for you

A quick update on what has happened since 1-11-13.

First, my wife hasn't filed for divorce, and I am sleeping in bed with her at night. We hold hands from time to time, and occasionally hug. Other than that, there isn't much physical contact.

There is still plenty of tension / resentment, and she hasn't committed to working it out yet. By committed, I mean she hasn't decided whether she will put the effort in like she had in the past.

I definitely feel like the marriage can be salvaged. She was reading some material from one of her social work classes, and it went something like this, "every issue can be fixed or resolved". I repeated it to her after she said it, and she understood where I was going with it.

The changes I'm making have already started paying dividends in my overall happiness. While the situation I am in sucks, I am happy it happened. I know that our marriage can become one that we are proud of, and I am committed to that outcome. I hope my wife chooses that path as well.

I love my wife very much, and the past couple months I have realized that I wasn't a good husband to her. I wasn't in tune with her needs mentally, physically or emotionally. All of these issues resulted in me becoming unattractive to her, and also built resentment. If she chooses marriage, we will succeed. We will come out of this process stronger than before, and more in touch with each others feelings and needs.

Just wanted to say thanks again for the well wishes, prayers and support. Things have moved in the right direction which is something I am very thankful for.

Nice to hear some good news! Hang in there, it sounds like things are heading in the right direction and may lead to a stronger relationship overall. Congrats on the progress!

Sounds like getting things back to normal still won't be easy but that was a great update

Thanks so much for the update. Glad to hear things have improved. Hope they continue in that direction.

Good to hear. Hope things continue to improve for you guys. God Bless.